Something has been on my mind. Whenever a video of a woman confronting a young lady believed to be a side chick goes viral a lot of comments are been made especially from women blaming the wife.
First for not confronting her husband at home, well we won’t know if she did already, and proceeded to confront the lady as well.
Secondly comments about the woman’s size. Comments like ”” she’s too fat and unkempt she should go and lose weight and keep fit, ” and men are moved by what they see”, will be made by women.
I won’t know if these women making these comments are married themselves.
Thirdly it’s easy to make such comments when you have no experience, questions like why are you not going on dates since you began to have children?
Why don’t you go and lose weight and flatten your tummy like it was before you got married?
Why don’t you wear push-up bras so your breast will still look firm like they were before? will be asked these people.
Well, a lot of people are not in touch with reality, and because of that have unrealistic expectations of things like this.
A married woman with children most often than not will and can’t look like a side chick.
She can’t dress like her or have her body physique because the married woman has gone through processes the side chick hasn’t and she has more responsibilities.
Before she buys herself clothes she’ll have to buy them for her children.
Sometimes she has no time to make her hair especially if she has no help.
She may not have time for the gym. Things a single woman has time for she may not have time for. I believe we are already aware of these things.
You know I keep hearing men are moved by what they see and women are moved by what they hear.
I believe it’s time to update that belief because both things move both men and women.
Which woman doesn’t want a fit husband? Which man isn’t moved by soft and sweet words? We make it seem like women are blind.
Every time women lose weight so you don’t push Oga outside, dress to kill and buy sexy lingerie so Oga doesn’t look outside.
How about the men who develop pot bellies after some years of marriage? Do women look outside for that reason?
If a man is attracted to a slim young woman because his wife has a mummy tummy, why not make his wife look the way he desires? I bet if that young attractive woman outside gets married and has children as well I doubt she’ll still have time on her hands or even the body physique.
I’ll never confront anybody, especially someone that didn’t say marriage vows to me.
It’s just degrading and belittling. I don’t support confronting a side chick or mistress because she’s not married to me.
We won’t know what has gone on behind the scenes.
I believe everyone should just respect themselves and there will be peace…
©Treasure Ezuruike
