Then how about those who really don’t have such plans but continue to make false promises. If you asked anyone the aim or purpose of marriage. They are likely to say for procreation and companionship.
Now let’s say a couple married 10 years ago. The man left for another country immediately and till today he hasn’t returned to see his wife again, what do we call that?
They may be communicating over the phone or social media and the woman may be asked to send her nudes as the husband misses her and is faithful for ten years and doesn’t want to cheat. And he’ll keep promising I’ll come home soon, just like he said 10 years ago.
In some cases, the man may have sent his family to pay the woman’s bride price and she’ll be happy that she’ll become Mrs. Somebody without actually seeing the man she’s marrying and then after that she moves in with the man’s family and is now a married woman.
Now imagine this woman was 25, ten years later she’ll be 35 still waiting for the abroad husband to return, in 5 years she’ll be 40 and like that her reproductive years are wasted waiting for an abroad husband, not that she has fertility issues.
So which procreation and companionship did she achieve despite being Mrs. Somebody?
A lot of people have argued in the past that there’s nothing wrong with this situation right here but I believe they are hypocrites.
If this couple were together will it be accepted that for 10 years of marriage they have no child? What’s even baffling is even the man’s family who will expect the woman to be happy and smiling possibly he sends money and that’s all she’ll ever need.
Then one day everything will be unraveled. He has a wife and children over there, you are just his Nigerian wife he married for his parents. You will be asked to leave if you can’t stay at the age of 40 after wasting your productive years waiting for your abroad husband.
I have often wondered how women and their families will agree to hold a marriage where the groom isn’t available and will be represented by his brother or family, what’s the guarantee that he’ll return? In some cases you have not even met the groom before, you have just chatted or spoken over the phone and the next thing is marriage.
Well, at least you are Mrs. Somebody…
