Relationships regularly have ups and downs, yet anger can affect a relationship for the worst.
You may find that you look for negative things in your partner and you are quick to assign blame. These can greatly damage a relationship.
Feeling very angry all the time or being around someone who is always angry is exhausting and stressful.
Anger leaves you constantly in a bad mood. Anger usually occurs when something is going on in your life that makes you feel upset and frustrated. It builds over time.
It becomes a problem when you hold on to your anger, preventing yourself from feeling happy and positive.
It becomes a problem to other people when it’s having a huge impact on your relationship with other people.
It becomes a much bigger problem when people begin to feel unsafe and scared around you especially when it becomes violent or abusive.
If you are the scared party it’s best to remove yourself from such a situation when you have tried listening and tried to calm the angry party down.
If you are the angry party, deal with your anger and own it. Realize that while it may be directed at someone else it’s your anger and always about you. You may have valid points and reasons for the anger but the emotions are yours.
Anger is usually a secondary emotion, so consider the other emotions involved like fear, hurt sadness, or rejection.
Being angry at your partner is sometimes easier than facing rejection.
However, the consequences of reacting with anger in a relationship can be severe and cause long-lasting scars.
Three types of anger include passive aggression, refusing to accept you are angry; open aggression where you become physically and verbally abusive and often hurt yourself and others and assertive anger where you deal with anger in a healthy controlled way.
Aggression can lead to harm, damage to property, verbal abuse, threats, and violence.
Hostility on the other hand is a complex set of attitudes and judgments that motivates aggressive behavior and involves disliking others and evaluating them negatively.
So to deal with anger,
Explore what is really behind it.
Be aware that your anger is a warning sign.
Identify the triggers.
Learn ways to calm down quickly.
Find healthier ways to express anger.
Recognize if you need professional help.
Your anger becomes a problem when it’s felt too intensely and frequently and can put an end to relationships with friends and family.
Take steps to curb your anger before it consumes you and causes irreversible damage…
