There are two important things to test compatibility that is not sex-related.
One is TEMPERAMENTS and the other LOVE LANGUAGES.
Just like GENOTYPE and BLOOD GROUP, there are temperaments that go together and some that can’t stand each other.
Understanding each other’s love languages and temperaments reduce misunderstanding and help us all relate better with each other irrespective of the kind of relationship.
There are four temperaments namely Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmat and Sanguine. Everyone has more than one but we have a more prominent temperament that defines us.
For love languages there are five of them namely WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, ACTS OF SERVICE, RECEIVING GIFTS, QUALITY TIME, and PHYSICAL TOUCH.
Everyone speaks a different love language. Spouses may also speak different love languages.
There are people who if you don’t compliment, they’ll never be happy.
If you don’t compliment their new outfit or new hairdo they will wear a frown all day, these people speak the love language of words of affirmation, so if this is you avoid people who can’t give compliments and consider it a useless thing to complain about.
It’s the small things that create the greatest problems. These people love appreciation a lot so if you don’t appreciate their efforts they conclude you don’t love them.
For acts of service, actions speak louder than words. These people need you to help out with house chore or assist in whatever they are doing as proof of your love for them. Everyone loves assistance but for these people, all the gifts in the world mean nothing if you don’t help them while they are doing chores. If this is you, you can’t be happy with people who won’t lift a finger. It’s a little assistance that matters.
For receiving gifts. Everyone loves gifts but there are people who light up so brightly when they receive any gift.
It doesn’t have to be expensive, some biscuits or even sweets just make them feel loved, and that you are thinking about them.
Especially if it’s something they love and you buy it, you just make their day. If this is you then you can’t be happy with people that may never buy you anything ever.
They don’t consider it important or something they should do even after repeated complaints.
For Physical touch, these people love hugs and hand-holding or other forms of physical affection. If you don’t hug them they don’t feel loved. If you don’t hold their hands or give them kisses even if it’s on the cheek they feel neglected. If this is you, then people who don’t know how to show physical affection won’t make you happy.
For a quality time these people love attention and no distractions.
If you are spending time with them they won’t tolerate chatting or watching TV or being physically present but absent.
You have to be present and be truly affectionate.
You always hear them complaining that you don’t give them time.
They don’t mean that you shouldn’t do other things. They mean that even the little time you claim to give them is taking over by other things. Don’t mix activities, plan them separately.
These love languages are so important for compatibility, please know where you fall into and make the right decision for your happiness. These things are really important.
Please let me know where you fall into.
